I can help you with some basic tips and looks like there are a few alliance ready to help you guys out already.
Let me know your current king levels and trophy counts.
General tips. Work on always upgrading things and using all your workers. You can upgrade a spell/troop/wave/construction plan without using a worker. So meaning you have 6 things to upgrade even with just having 2 workers.
I always preferred offensive as it is more fun to raid and beat people than have a super strong defense. You never will be able to protect all your gold and just get use to some of it being stolen each day when you log in. Even if you have the best defense in the world you will still have some gold stolen from you. This is why becoming a better attacker is critical to always having money.
Easy way to upgrade your defense is to level up barricades and do not even level up blockades at all. They are super cheap and fast build times and once you get higher in the game you will see a lot of alliances using elite boosts for them pushing them into the best defensive thing to have!
You will only get special offer packages when you have low gems, you can trick the system by not collection your gems from your quests and dunegons and then use those gems to buy the special offer package. DO NOT collect your quest achievements unless you are buying a special offer package with those gems.
You want to get the spcial pacakge with the extra spell slot ASAP. If not you need to buy the extra spell slot for 600 gems IIRC. The package deal is like 500 gems plus other things.